Whenever you see the word “exude” mentioned in an article of any kind or when anyone uses it when speaking, it invariably is used to describe someone’s confidence, beauty, energy or sexiness. In order to exude confidence, it has to come from within. Have you ever seen a good-looking person and then they open their mouth and begin to speak? And all of a sudden, that person is no longer as attractive as you once thought. Or how about a person who is average looking but yet commands a room when he/she enters it and before you know it, because of their confidence and body language, you suddenly find him/her extremely attractive and find yourself undeniably drawn towards that person…
To gain confidence, an aura about you or to become and remain sexy to others is a great trait to own…and, the wonderful thing about it is that anyone at any age who wants to exude any of these characteristics can attain it – if and only if they learn how to make proper fitness the main catalyst in their lives…
1. Don’t think that it’s always all about you
Understand people’s actions, even when hurtful, rarely have anything to do with you. It’s easy to read into the negativity of others and see it as a slight to our personality or challenge to our ego. Yet this type of reaction can trigger unnecessary stress and prevent you from focusing on the positive things in your life. People are people; there’s never a need to link their behaviour with your happiness. Knowing this gives you freedom to feel the confidence you deserve.
Exit conversations that swim in hearsay. Indulging in idle chatter might make you feel in the loop, but the feeling is fleeting and will leave you wondering what others are saying about you when you’re not around. Take the high road – you’ll feel better inside and appear far more confident to others around you.
3. Walk the talk.
This doesn’t mean you have to draw neat lines through all of life’s to-do’s, but if you articulate your goals, and start to accomplish them, easy ones first, you will develop a mind-set of success. This, in turn, makes it easier to feel confident. Your goals could be anything from running your first 5K to finally cleaning out the garage; learning how to strum a guitar or play the piano. Whatever your goals, find something you truly desire, make a promise to see it through to the end, then feel the confidence of success.
Have you ever gone out of your way to speak with someone who frowns, scowls or consistently makes a “stink face?” Chances are the answer is no. Your smile says a lot about you as a person because when a person smiles, it generally means that they are happy and confident in who they are as a person. Having an inviting smile is a powerful tool that not only lets people know that you are approachable without saying a word.
5. Avoid making fast talk.
Don’t be a motor mouth. Talking too fast is not only confusing to the person on the receiving end, but it also shows that you may not be putting a lot of thought into what you are saying.
6. Put your best face forward.
While it is important to make peace with your body, you should always maximize your existing assets by taking good care of your health, skin, teeth and hair. Your confidence comes with the understanding that no matter your size, shape, number of wrinkles or height, you are a person who deserves love and dignity from yourself and those around you. It is however impossible to deny that appearance has an impact on important first impressions. So take little steps to caring for your body, it can be as small as going to the dentist to polish up your pearly whites, or getting your pimples treated at your dermatologist’s office. Love yourself, change what you can, and then accept what you can’t.
The Fabulous Team